Continui seria declaratiilor facute de oamenii cu care in ultimii ani am lucrat. Fie ca si-au rezolvat subiecte strict emotionale si de atitudine, fie ca si-au rezolvat probleme de sanatate. Atunci cand emotia era prea veche si a ajuns sa se manifeste in plan fizic.
E. M. (34 ani) "Terapia pentru mine a început încă de când v-am cunoscut și
nu am știut la acel moment cum avea să se schimbe viața mea, care pe atunci era
intr-o perioada plină de furtuni si vijelii.
primele discuții am inceput să înțeleg că este nevoie să ies din carapacea sub
care m-am ascuns, că nu sunt singura in acea situație și depinde de
mine cum aleg să îmi îndrept, sau mai bine zis să accept greșelile din
trecut și mai ales să fac ceva cu viața mea si să nu-mi mai plang de
milă. Cu ajutorul Dvs . am cunoscut oameni cu situații similare, care au
contribuit cu sau fără voia lor, la schimbarea mea. Le Mulțumesc pe această
Am învățat să îmi ascult
intuiția, să privesc în interiorul meu și să spun/să fac ceea ce simt, să
am curajul de a acționa. Să cer ajutorul si ghidarea îngerilor în acțiunile
mele. Să cer ceea ce este bun pentru mine și cei din jurul meu.
identific și să vindec sentimente de frică , furie, neputință din
copilarie și nu numai ( încă mai identific/lucrez aici). Să mă iert, accept pe
mine cea din trecut și să îi mulțumesc celei ce am fost.
Dar totodată că este
nevoie mai întâi să dai, ca apoi să primești.
am luat decizia de a pune capăt unei relatii toxice și să divorțez, să privesc
înainte cu speranță și să îmi cresc fiul cum pot mai bine.
Am început să mă simt liniștită
sufletește, lucrurile au început să vină de la sine odată ce am revenit pe
drumul meu, este drept sunt zile bune dar și zile mai puțin bune, in care
starea de spirit nu este una foarte bună, însă de multe ori este suficient să
ne auzim la telefon, ca aceasta să înceapă să se schimbe in fracțiune de
Faptul că am început să lucrăm
împreună, ca voluntar sau angajat, pentru mine a fost un Plus, am învățat
lucruri la care nu m-am gandit niciodată, am interacționat cu oameni minunați,
am participat la cursuri, conferințe, forum-uri, toate au contribuit atât la
dezvoltarea personală, cât și la cea profesională alături de Dvs.
Pot spune cu sinceritate că sunt
ceea ce sunt azi datorită Dvs.
Mulțumesc încă o dată pentru tot, dar mai ales pentru că faceți parte din
viața mea și m-ati ajutat să am încredere în mine.
De ani de zile, prin metode diferite, incercam sa ne identificam adevaratul Sine. Pentru femei procesul presupune 2 etape. Este necesar intai sa isi accepte feminitatea. Sa vindece frica de a fi femeie.
Prin acest video invatati cum sa faceti asta.
Aveti mai jos traducerea in engleza a video-ului.
We have been trying for years and through different methods to identify our true Self.
For women, this process entails 2 stages. Firstly, they need to accept their feminity. They need to cure the fear of being a women.
With this video you will learn how to do this. Below you have the english translation of the video.
This is a transcript of a live session of
therapy with Iolanda in March of 2014. You can play the video as well while you
use the technique presented below.
Part 1 Introduction
Iolanda: - I can take things in order and say to God .. I don t know.. just to
explain, I speak in a very practical manner to God, the same way I would speak
to any other physical being. For example: „God I did this or I would want this”
or „tomorrow I have to speak in front of some people but am I capable of this?
What will I say to them? And especially how will I concentrate the information
I have in my mental library?”. Usually
the answer comes in the form of intuition and this time I asked “God, what am I
offering to these people?”. I was asking that because previously when I was
doing my meetings in the church I would be able to offer people something when
they left, but here in this context what can I offer people I wondered. And the
answer I received from inside was “knowledge”. Ok. So it doesn’t have to be
something physical, it’s not a cake, it is not money, it is not a present, it’s
knowledge. Ok. But this means I have to help you to find the answers within
yourself. This is the meaning of knowledge. If some of us knocked on this door
before in order to receive knowledge or if some of us did not even understand
that the door or the possibility of knocking existed, that is not the issue
here. This door, this path to knowledge exists anyway in our soul. And exactly
because we would not open this door, fear sets in. The first fear that I cured
myself of was – and you will understand why it is so powerful when we take into
account the uncertain times we live in – the fear of losing my job. “Who would
hire me at 48 (my age then)? What would I do? After I did only one thing for 24
years? Where would I go?”. Think about it for just a second, just close your
eyes and really think this: “Tomorrow I will be unemployed. I will lose my
job.” What do you feel? What does your inside tell you when you feed it this
information? I would like to hear from the people here. Audience member
1: - Great insecurity.
Iolanda: - Great insecurity! So you are not at ease! Your heart is racing, a
natural reaction of the body. And that is all due to one thought, you lived the
emotion only for a few seconds and you were scared. The moment I thought “Ok, I
will lose my job at 48 years of age, what would I do?” I said to myself “I lost
my job at 48! So what?”. Because it is only my emotion at play, it is not a
real fact. It was not easy though. I had heart palpitations; I felt my heart
will rip open my chest cavity. I did what we call emotion freedom technique
(EFT), with this specific fear, of losing my job and in reality my mind become
tranquil because that energy had disintegrated, this fear was only in my mind
and my heart, it was nothing real. But it is true I will never have to live
this fear because now, after this technique, this print is no longer in me.
There is someone else in this audience that I had to say this to “Imagine you
would lose your job”! Their answer was “But what will I do then?”. And my reply
was “Don’t think about what you will do! Just accept that you will lose your
job! ”. The same way one could accept that their significant other might leave
them. And what happens then? Does the sun stop rising every morning? No. Your
life ends? No. There is no more day and night? No. It will never snow or rain
again? No. So then, where do this terror and this tight grip comes from? From
the fact that someone leaves me? But is this person a part of me? No. He/she
stands next to me. When I think of something/someone as being MINE, and ah, this
expression, that is so used in every language, but I hear it especially with
Romanian women “Mine won’t do that/Mine this or mine that”. Is that so? Since
when has that person become your possession? You can maybe say for some time
about your child that it is yours, because for some time you’ve been home for
them, but the man/woman next to you, how can you call he/she your propriety?
Did you happen to buy them? For how long you own them? When you start seeing
someone as your propriety, yes, you become afraid of losing them, and the verb
“to have” gives us reassurance through greediness, but then the suffering
starts. But there comes the moment when you realize that yours, truly yours
it’s only what you have inside of yourself. Nothing that is outside you belongs
to you. It is not easy to think like that, the mind does not accept it, it says
what do you mean? He is my man, she is my woman! That is where problems are
born. This is the essence of jealousy, pain, and that is why jealousy attacks
your bones and joints, it is such a powerful emotion that affects the body
deeply. You have to come to realize that the other person can not belong to you
as he/she thinks and acts for himself/herself. But this feeling of possession
is what brings us pain and suffering.
I am not a talented artist, but I would like to show you this drawing
that impressed me. (see video – starting at minute 7:45).
A man. In the middle – its centre of gravity. If I draw a line through that
centre, what is above that line has to be symmetric to what is below the line.
Even here, the knowledge passed down from Antiquity manifests itself and tells
us about the world above and the world on this planet. So all the laws that
govern life on this planet are reflections of the Divine Laws. As above, so
below. Chinese culture speaks of the 7 chakras. So, from the pelvic region, if
I draw upward lines towards that median line, I form a triangle – the lower
triangle. From the third eye, if I draw downward lines towards the median line,
I form the superior triangle. And the space between these 2 triangles becomes a
rectangle where lies the stomach and not only the stomach but the whole
digestive system. Spiritual people speak of this space being similar to a metal
foundry. This is where we churn all of our thoughts, that is why we feel it in
our guts before a big exam or when faced with a big problem, that is why we get
gastritis/peptic ulcer, because we don’t properly “digest” a situation –
meaning we do not accept it. But if I turn and look, the superior triangle is
the same as the inferior triangle, and what does this mean? It means that where
the place of Procreation is in the lower triangle, its correspondence above is
the place of Creation. So, the energy that I use for raising my body’s
vibrations, turning my thoughts to Divinity, in a church, in prayer, however
you want, but my vibration rises because these are thoughts of high frequency,
this energy of Creation has the same force but opposite direction with the
energy of Procreation. In this context, I stop seeing sexual energy as
something to be ashamed of, something sinful, and something that needs to be
condemned. This why the Tao lessons talk about the awakening of Kundalini when
they talk about the sexual energy. Because this energy can also lead to the
awakening of the Higher Conscience. So this is our body. There is nothing shameful or sinful in
it, nothing to be chased away, there is only understanding to be gained. In the
Bible it is said that In the
beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.The apostle Paul says the Word became
body, (Word as in Divinity), so that the body can become Word. So all I have to
do is take care of this body, as I already told you, to see it as a sacred
place where Divine essence exists, as our Savior told us that within 3 days He
will destroy the Temple and rebuild it, while talking about His rising, from
physical plane to higher planes, and referring to our physical body
transforming, so this is what I also have to do. I need to change my body’s
vibrations to such a level that I feel peace, tranquility, and fulfillment. I
repeat, because they said the Word became body, so God gave us a body, so that
the body becomes Word, meaning we return to what we once were.
While this is the situation, does
fear has a place and a role still? When you know that within you, Divinity
manifests itself and you know based on the Law of Attraction that you will
attract this manifestation in your life; this is what the Universe will bring
forth in you and for you and nothing can touch you. Or how our Saviour told us in the world but not of the world. We
become part of this world through suffering, pain, unhappiness, only through
lower frequency emotions. When do we feel even in the slightest better – I
don’t know, maybe we did a pilgrimage, or we listened to a beautiful sermon, or
we went to a monastery where we felt the energy of the Earth – we are
completely different, and physical pain – headache, stomach ache, liver pain – disappears
truly. Those of you who have been in this situation know that I am not
Part 2 –
The fear of being a woman
To come back to what we want to solve
today – the fear of being a woman. I
am afraid to be a woman. I ask you, or 10 seconds, close your eyes and think
about this – deep inside of you – and tell me what your body reaction is. Think
and tell your body „I am afraid to be a woman”. You don’t have to push your
body, because it will respond to you. Tell me, I want to know your mental and physical
Audience member 1: - I felt a lump in my throat.
Iolanda: - Okay, so your
thyroid was the first to react, that means you cannot even express that. Can
you say it out loud without choking?
Audience member 1: - No, I am gasping for
Iolanda: - So you cannot
express it because this fear is too strong and too deeply rooted in you.
Audience member 2: - I feel like crying.
Iolanda:- Crying. Good.
That is okay, the time has come. A tap has been opened. It is a huge thing.
Audience member 3: - I am finding it hard to breathe.
Iolanda(smiles): - It’s hard to breathe, all of the sudden
you feel a lack of air.
Audience member 4:- I felt like it is okay. I rejected this fear, I do
yoga, I have peace and tranquility.
Iolanda: - You rejected it. I do not wish to contradict you
but I believe that it is not alright to reject anything as it is part of us;
our duty is to accept its existence.
Audience member 4: - No, but through introspection
and meditation we make this tranquility for ourselves, and tell ourselves every
day „I am without fear”. I am not afraid, and we use this as a mantra. And
probably for me this feeling has become part of me, of no fear.
Iolanda: -Yes, I know you
personally, and I know you do not have the fear of being a woman. This is more
for our younger audience, maybe.
Part 3 –
So, we will start this exercise and I
urge the men in the audience that while I am talking, when I use the term
woman, they should replace it with the term man. It is likely, and I feel this
in my body while we are talking that you did not accept truly your destiny as a
man and what being a man entails. But I say man as the old knowledge tells us,
having nothing to do with your physicality.
Let’s do this EFT exercise together.
It is very simple. I will give you affirmations, you can whisper them, but it is
important that you can say them out loud because as you saw, there is
difficulty when you think about something but when you try to articulate that
thought, the difficulty becomes even bigger. So I urge you to try and express
yourself and to be mindful of what it is that you are saying. It doesn’t matter
if you feel like crying or if you feel like you are running out of air. It will
pass, I guarantee you that no one will leave here with any pain or discomfort.
And we will also play with this technique, combining acupressure and mental
affirmations while we are actually unlocking some energetic points and
regaining our own energy that has been blocked.
Go to minute 20:45 in the video to see how to tap the lateral aspect of
your left hand with the index and middle finger from your right hand and while
tapping express: Although I am afraid to
be a woman, I love, accept and forgive myself profoundly and completely. I am
afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 21:24 in the video to see how to tap your right temple with
the index and middle finger from your right hand and while tapping express: I am afraid to be a woman and I am afraid
to manifest completely my sexuality, sensuality and femininity, because I am
afraid to be a woman. I admit I am afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 21:54 in the video to see how to tap the nasal part of your
right eyebrow with the index and middle finger from your right hand and while
tapping express: I am afraid to be a
woman and that is why I do not manifest my inner femininity at my own optimal
capacity, because I am afraid to be a woman. I forgive and accept all those in
my life that with knowledge or without have inspired this fear in me andblocked the feeling of femininity ever
since I was a child. That is why I am afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 22:57 in the video to see how to tap your right maxillary sinus
with the index and middle finger from your right hand and while tapping express:
I am afraid to be a woman but I accept,
love and forgive myself, profoundly and completely. I know I do not manifest
myself the way I would like to most of the time, I know that I do not express
with honesty all that I feel as a woman, to my partner, I know and admit that I
do not manifest as a woman all that I feel in front of society, due to fear and
because I forgot how it is done. I am afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 23:57 in the video to see how to tap your philtrum, between
your nose and upper lip with the index and middle finger from your right hand
and while tapping express: I admit I am
afraid to be a woman and although my soul has asked for it many times, I did
not manifest the desire to be sensual, I did not manifest or express my
sexuality either, not when I was younger and not with my partner after years of
relationship. I inhibited my femininity and sensuality in such a manner that I
can realize that the beauty of femininity has been frustrating to me, I have
been frustrated by the pleasure I am suppose to feel as a woman. In this way, I
created suffering not only for me, but also for my life partner, due to not
being honest with him, because I was afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 25:23 in the video to see how to tap below your lower lip
with the index and middle finger from your right hand and while tapping express:
I was afraid to be a woman and I am
afraid to manifest as one. I forgot what profound femininity means, I forgot
what profound sensuality means, I forgot what native sexuality means. I
identified with the social role so that I forgot that God has created me to be
a woman. I am afraid to be a woman. I am afraid also of feeling vulnerable, I am
afraid because I was told that the woman is weak, I am afraid because I
considered that being a woman means being the weaker gender. I forgot that
flexibility is actually the true power. But still, I am afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 26:56 in the video to see how to tap just below your right
shoulder with the index and middle finger from your right hand and taking deep
breaths and while tapping express: I am
afraid to be a woman and I am afraid to manifest myself openly as a woman. I
realize that femininity exists within me, that it is a way of being, of
existence, a way of joy. I did not rejoice as a woman, because I forgot I am a
woman. I am afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 27:51 in the video to see how to tap your left thumb, where
the nail bed begins with the index and middle finger from your right hand and
while tapping express: Although I am
afraid to be a woman, I accept, love and forgive myself profoundly and
completely. I admit that this means that I did not love myself, that I did not
know how to love and protect what God has given me, that I did not know how to
manifest this gift that God has given me, that of being a woman. Because before
being a mother, a child, a sister, a grandmother or a wife, I am a woman. I
take responsibility, with all my heart of my attributes as a woman and all the
gifts that derive from this and I thank my spirit for helping me understand the
force and the power that I have, because I was afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 29:41 in the video to see how to tap your left
index, where the nail bed begins with the index and middle finger from your
right hand and while tapping express: I
was afraid to be a woman and that is why I lost a lot of joy in my life and
many times I considered God to be at fault for the lack of joy, without knowing
that I did not allow myself to have them because He gave them to me when He
created me but I did not know how to rejoice in them. That is why I suffered as
a woman. I was afraid to be a woman.
Go to minute 30:33 in the video to see how to tap your left middle
finger, where the nail bed begins with the index and middle finger from your
right hand and while tapping express: Although
I was afraid to be a woman, I accept, love and forgive myself profoundly and
completely. I promise myself and my spirit that I will strive to manifest
completely all the feminine attributes that God has given to me as a gift,
because they are mine. I know this is not possession but a birth right, because
I am made by God and I love myself as a woman. I love myself as a woman.
Go to minute 31:41 in the video to see how to tap your left little
finger, where the nail bed begins with the index and middle finger from your
right hand, skipping the ring finger, we do not tap the ring finger and while
tapping express: I thank the Lord
because He helped me understand what a perfect creation of His I am, what
potential of joy exists in me, what potential of manifesting love exists in me
and here and now in a time that the Heavens support me and are open, in a time
that Mercury that governs my mind supports me, I chose to manifest, to express
and to live with all my heart as the woman that I am on the inside, in the way
that God has created me.
Go to minute 33:06 in the video to see how to tap with four fingers from
your right hand the top of your head, the place that is way of communicating
with God and while tapping express: I
give thanks to you, God with all my heart, with all my daughterly love, that
you opened my eyes and allowed me to see myself as the beautiful creation that
I am and you allowed me to see how I can access joy, that I have the right to
be happy, joyful and loved. I thank you for these gifts, God and I promise that
I will try and I ask you to help me do this all the time, I will try to
manifest my true value, as a daughter of Yours and as a woman created by You.
It is donPart 3 –
Discussion and Conclusion
Iolanda: - Physical reactions
of the body?
Audience member 1: - Headache.
Iolanda: - Correct. It was a
lot to carry.
Audience member 2: - I feel like I am
Iolanda: Great! You assimilated
completely. What is the general feeling, apart from pain, tears, and
breathlessness? When you think about being a woman? Is it still so rough; is it
still so powerful the emotion? It will settle, it requires a few minutes, at
least 10-15, so the energies that have been unlocked to settle.
Audience member 3: - There have been so many positive energies
circulating, everybody has been yawning, it is clear there has been release!
Iolanda (smiles): – Yes, now
you have so much energy, you will be moving the refrigerator and the stove and
clean the whole place.
I wanted this to be a gift for the
start of March, for women, so they can remember more than just parties for 8 of
March, and stop forgetting what it symbolizes: our femininity and our rebirth
in spring. The number 8 spiritually means transformation, death by two times, 4
by 2 equals 8, so it is our transformation, our remembrance, from our social
role to our Divine self. The moment has to come when we will remember more
often that we are women, not just physically, not just in looks, because this
is not femininity. Femininity doesn’t mean your weight, your hair color, or if
our hair is nicely done, it is an inner way of being, of feeling. And any man
will tell you that he is more attracted to a less beautiful woman but a more
warm and kind one, than he is attracted of physical beauty that has no light
and warmth inside.
(27): “The first thing that comes to my mind is exactly the case with the pain
in my left hip. I was diagnosed with “trochanteric bursitis” and treated only
once with 2 hip injections. The definitive treatment – as per Ms. Iolanda – was the realization that my hip was a point
where all the envy of other women has gathered in my body.
I used as treatment AWARENESS,
UNDERSTANDING, ACCEPTANCE and FORGIVENESS and I am already 3 years without any
medical intervention and pain free.
The second thing that comes to my
mind is the wound I had on my cervix, but this required continuous and
The cause was MY LACK OF LOVE AND
APPRECIATION towards myself and the low self esteem, this would be my best
description of what happened. Few years in a row of growth and learning and
acceptance were needed until the doctor told me the wound has completely
disappeared. (A/N: At that time,
A.M. was 19. In the meantime, her sexual life has evolved naturally and no
other afflictions within her sexual health developed).
And now, the laryngitis comes to
mind. When I had this acute affliction and I was without my voice and you found
the cause to be a grievance of mine that I did not …articulate, did not express
towards the person that was to blame for me being upset.
You advised me to say all I had to
say, to let it out, recommended few natural remedies and within 2 days my
soprano voice was as before. Maybe it s a very simple issue, but it came to my
In both cases, FIRSTLY comes the
awareness that behind a physical manifestation there is an
emotion/thought/attitude badly expressed or directed.
In the first case, the magical words
like “I m sorry, thank you, I love you” had so much power that they changed a
In the second case, awareness and
acceptance were the driving force behind the change in the physical state.
What is most important in situations
like these is the fact that once the subject had a resolution, once
ASSIMILATION and UNDERSTANDING have occurred, the disease/symptom did not
That can only happen if the person will nurture the same
thoughts/feelings that lead to disease to begin with. Meaning that she/he goes
back to how things were. From my experience, I know that no one wants to go
back to a state of pain once they learn they could live without it.
You could ask: but what was A.M.’s
fault when the women in her life were envious of her? There was something. She
did not know to give thanks to Life, to God, to her Destiny, whoever she
considers to be the Source of all things, for her looks, for what she is
allowed and has been allowed to have as a woman. She didn’t even take it for
granted, mind you. She just ignored this aspect of her life.
When she became aware of all the
blessings in her life, ALL aspects of her life became better/richer: her
relationship with her partner, her job, her relationship with friends and
Hope this will help with self growth
and inspire you to look up the unknown causes of your own health issues.
I can tell you that there is a strong
connection between what is inside of us- what we think/feel/say – and life’s events that we have to go through.
Within our family, related to our parents, to our children, partner or job.
Some time ago, I decided to write
down the numerous cases that I dealt with throughout the years.
In order to do so, I asked the people
who I interact with most often, the ones who at some point interacted with me
as patients, to write down some thoughts about an issue that I helped or guided
them to resolve. I thought I will synthesize these chapters and will give them
the form of a book.
For me it is very CLEAR that what we
feel, BUT also what we transmit to our physical body, will influence its
existence. That what we SAY with our words to our body changes morphological
and physiological structures. That means changes happen within the information
found at a DNA level.
Weeell, but let s see WHICH
feelings/ideas/words are the ones that can do such a thing!
When I started my one to one therapy
sessions, I prayed for the people that I come into contact with as a
counselor/therapist to become my friends. I prayed for our relationship to not
be limited by a classic patient – therapist relationship.
You know what they say, „be careful
what you wish for, it may actually come true”, and so did my prayer turn into
reality. And it IS a beautiful friendship with each and one of them. No matter
age, gender or residence.
Today I will present to you two cases
of two young women. A mother of two (A.C.), age 30 and a young adult (A.M.),
age 27. To keep my message accurate, I will post their exact words regarding
(30) “I have to let you know that I’ve been thinking a lot about what you
said to me. The thing that came to my mind is very important, in my opinion.
The time after Stephen was born, when
I was having irregular menstrual bleeds and you taught me to GIVE THANKS TO MY
Also TO ASK FOR ITS FORGIVENES for
tormenting it with a surgical procedure.
And to THANK it for being my baby’s
house. And to say I LOVE YOU to it.
I did all this, my problem had resolved.
I believe this is very important
after birth. That is because I saw how after giving birth to Michael, I did all
you told me and I recovered quicker. I felt better and in a shorter time. And
the postpartum period passed with ease.”
We are so used to our body to keep on
working, even if you take good care of it or not, and it never crosses our
minds that it REQUIRES GRATTITUDE for its perfection. To make an analogy with
something closer to all of us, let’s think about all the couples where one of
the partners – most of the time, the woman – will take over all of the family
responsibilities. This happens when it comes to her partner, her children, the
house, parents/friends and all other aspects. But, due to the fact that she
does these things CONSTANTLY, her partner takes it all for granted and doesn’t
understand why he would be required to appreciate, express gratitude or
encouragement. And he becomes disgruntled and bewildered when, FINALLY, his
partner decides to leave him and their home. It’s true though that most of the
time, she will wait for the kids to be grown up before leaving.
The same thing happens with our body.
When we keep on ignoring it, “pushing” it to work without paying any attention
to it, without taking into account its needs or acknowledging its signals, at a
certain point it … lets us down. It breaks down. It gets sick.
Acum catva timp, m-am decis sa astern pe hartie cazuistica stransa de-a lungul timpului.
Am rugat astfel pe cei cu care comunic mai des, cei care la un moment dat au interactionat cu mine in calitate de pacient, sa imi scrie cate ceva despre ce au rezolvat prin intermediul meu. Apoi, m-am gandit ca voi sintetiza pe capitole si le voi da forma unei carti.
Pentru mine este foarte CLAR faptul ca ceea ce simtim, DAR si ceea ce TRANSMITEM corpului fizic, influenteaza starea lui de existenta. Ca ceea ce II SPUNEM prin cuvinte corpului, modifica la nivel de structura morfologica si fiziologica. Adica, schimba la nivel de ADN informatia.
Eeeei, dar sa vedeti CARE sunt sentimentele/ ideile/ cuvintele care pot face acest lucru!
Cand am inceput sa lucrez individual -unu la unu- m-am rugat ca oamenii cu care vin in contact in calitate de terapeut/consilier, sa devina prieteni ai mei. Relatia noastra sa nu se limiteze doar la nivelul pacient-terapeut.
Si cum se spune :" Ai grija ce iti doresti ca se poate implini", ruga mi s-a indeplinit. Si ESTE o prietenie frumoasa cu oricare dintre ei. Indiferent de varsta, sex sau localitatea de domiciliu.
Astazi voi reda doua cazuri prezentate de doua femei tinere. O mamica (A.C.) in varsta de 30 ani si o tanara femeie (A.M.) in varsta de 27 ani. Pentru acuratetea mesajului, voi reda intocmai cele spuse de persoanele in cauza.
A.C. (30) "Sa stii ca m-am tot gandit la ce mi-ai spus. Mi-a venit in minte o singura chestie foarte importanta, mi se pare mie.
Dupa nasterea lui Stefan. Cand aveam dereglari de ciclu si m-ai invatat sa ii MULTUMESC UTERULUI.
Sa ii CER IERTARE ca l-am chinuit cu o interventie chirurgicala.
Sa ii MULTUMESC ca a fost casuta pentru bebelus. Si sa ii spun ca il IUBESC.
Dupa ce am transmis toate astea, problema s-a rezolvat.
Consider foarte important acest aspect dupa o nastere. Pentru ca am vazut ca dupa nasterea lui Mihai, am facut asta si mi-am revenit mai repede. M-am simtit bine mai repede. Si lehuzia a trecut usor."
Atat suntem de obisnuiti ca organismul nostru sa functioneze, indiferent ca ii purtam de grija sau nu, incat, nici prin cap nu ne trece ca ARE NEVOIE de RECUNOASTERE a perfectiunii lui. Ca sa fac o analogie cu ceva mai apropiat noua, sa ne gandim la cuplurile in care unul dintre soti - de cele mai multe ori sotia- a preluat toate responsabilitatile familiei. In raport cu sotul, cu copiii, cu administrarea casei, in relatia cu parintii/prietenii, etc. Dar, tocmai pentru ca face CONSTANT aceste lucruri, sotul considera firesti toate astea si nu intelege de ce ar trebui sa aprecieze, sa exprime un cuvant de multumire, de incurajare. Si este total nemultumit si contrariat, cand, IN SFARSIT!,
sotia se decide sa plece de acasa. Drept este ca de cele mai multe ori asteapta se creasca copiii si apoi o face.
La fel se intampla si cu corpul nostru. Tot ignorandu-l, tot "tragand" de el sa lucreze fara sa ii acordam atentie, fara sa tinem cont de nevoile si semnalele lui, la un moment dat, ne....lasa. Cedeaza. Se imbolnaveste.
Al doilea caz.
A.M. (27 ani):" Prima care imi vine in minte este fix cea cu durerile de sold stang. Diagnostic de
"bursita trohanteriana" si tratata o singura data cu 2 infiltratii. Tratament definitiv- a la doamna Iolanda- s-a constatat ca punct de acumulare pentru toata invidia starnita catre persoanele de sex feminin.
Am tratat prin CONSTIENTIZARE, INTELEGERE, ACCEPTARE si IERTARE si deja sunt in anul 3 post infiltratii, fara revenire la tratament fizic si fara alte dureri.
A doua care imi vine in minte, este rana pe colul uterin, dar asta a fost cu un tratament continuu si prelungit.
Cauza a fost LIPSA MEA DE IUBIRE si APRECIERE fata de mine insami si parerea proasta despre mine insami, ca altfel nu stiu cum sa o explic. Au fost ani la rand de crestere si invatare si acceptare pana cand mi-a spus doctorita ca rana nu mai exista. NP. La acel moment A.M avea 19 ani. Intre timp, viata sexuala a decurs normal si nici alte afectiuni la nivel genital nu au aparut.
Si imi vine acum in minte, laringita. Cand am facut laringita si am ramas fara voce, si ati gasit ca si cauza o suparare de-a mea pe care nu apucasem sa o ...dau pe gura, persoanei care era de vina.
M-ati sfatuit sa imi spun tot oful, mi-ati dat 2-3 remedii naturiste si in 2 zile aveam vocea mea de soprana inapoi. Poate e prea simplut, dar mi-a rasarit acum in minte."
In ambele cazuri, a fost vorba IN PRIMUL rand, de a constientiza ca in spatele manifestarii fizice exista o emotie/ gand/ atitudine gresit exprimata/ directionata.
In primul caz, cuvinte magice precum imi cer iertare, multumesc, te iubesc, au amprentat atat de puternic, incat au schimbat o stare fizica.
In al doilea caz, constientizarea si acceptarea au fost cele care au amprentat pana la schimbarea unei stari.
Ce este cel mai important in asemenea situatii, este faptul ca o data rezolvat subiectul, o data ASIMITAT si INTELES, nu recidiveaza. Decat, daca, persoana in cauza hraneste acelasi tip de sentimente/ ganduri care initial au provocat afectiunile la nivel fizic. Adica, atunci cand se intoarce la ce a fost odata. Din experienta, stiu ca nimeni nu vrea sa se intoarca la o durere dupa cea invatat ca se poate trai fara ea.
Veti spune: dar ce vina are A.M. in situatia in care a fost invidiata de o parte din femeile din viata ei? Are. Nu a stiut sa multumesca Vietii, lui Dumnezeu, Destinului, oricui considera ca reprezinta Sursa tuturor lucrurilor, pentru modul in care arata fizic, pentru ceea ce isi permite si si-a permis ca femeie sa aiba. Nici macar nu a considerat ca i se cuvine. Doar a ignorat importanta unui asemenea aspect.
Cand a devenit constienta de binecuvantarile vietii ei, TOATE aspectele acestei vieti i s-au imbunatatit/imbogatit: relatia de cuplu, serviciul, relatia cu prietenii,cu familia.
Sper sa va ajute in munca cu voi insiva si sa va inspire sa cautati aspectele necunoscute din spatele starii voastre de sanatate.
Pot sa va spun ca exista o stransa legatura si intre ceea ce este in interiorul nostru- ceea ce simtim/ gandim/ exprimam- si situatiile de viata prin care trecem. In familie in raport cu parintii, cu copiii, cu sotul sau la serviciu.
Este sambata, deja aprilie si ...deja a patra Ordonanta data.
Pentru ca stam in casa- unii doar in weekend-si pentru ca este pagina creta de mine ( Terapie prin cuvant Ploiesti), DIN suflet, imi permit sa redau DIN suflet ceea ce vreau sa transmit.
Si tot ce voi scrie sau voi reda prin inregistarre, va avea DOAR caracter de mobilizare, sustinere, ghidare, sprijinire.
Modestie sau nu, aroganta sau nu, sar peste analiza gestului meu si exprim ceea ce STIU ca poate AJUTA.
PS Aici ma pot sustine- sau combate!- cei care au beneficiat de lucrul/intalnirea cu mine.
Suntem intr-o perioada a existentei care ne-a adus FRICA.
MAREA FRICA. Frica demoarte. Frica data de neputinta.
MIE, mi-a disparut neputinta de a ajuta pe cei bolnavi. Dar si frustrarea de anu ma face inteleasa cand am oferit metode de PREVENTIE medicala. Si emotionala.
Au disparut toate cand am privit in jur si am vazut oameni cu bani, oameni de stat, care sunt SI EI, prinsi in acelasi Vis.
Acum, chiar daca ai bani multi, putin probabil ca cineva din strainatate sa te accepte la tratament daca esti declarat COVID 19 pozitiv.
Am ajuns in ACEEASI barca a Vietii.
Frustrarea mea ca oameni cu cancer nu pot pleca in strainatate la tratament pentru ca NU AU BANI, iar un ministru al sanatatii, imi spune in fata ca nu poate fi inclusa ecografia de san in program national pentru ca " nu se regaseste in agenda noastra politica", aceasta frustrare, S-A DUS.
Suntem obligati - Viata o face!- sa privim mult in jur dar si mai mult IN noi.
Sunt crestin -ortodoxa. Dar cunoasterea am extins-o conform unui indemn crestin: "Cere si si ti se va da. Bate si ti se va deschide". Dar si datorita unor idei din Crez si Tatal Nostru.
NP. Altadata despre asta.
SI EU am cerut. Am pus genunchiul in pamant si am rugat. Fara sa stiu ca cer un sacrificiu pentru mine. Am primit. Am ajutat prin gestul meu.
Am stat in genunchi si am cerut curatare pe neam. Dupa ce am inteles ca nu imi poate fi MIE bine daca neamul - mosii /stramosii mei nu sunt bine/ nu sunt onorati.
Am stat in genunchi in biserica si am cerut ghidare, luminarea mintii, pentru mine si pentru altii.
Am suferit, am vindecat, m-am ridicat, m-am sacrificat din dragoste, am acceptat si am inteles ca pot face un sacrificiu pentru un copil, chiar daca nu l-am nascut eu.
Am invatat. INVAT.
Dar ACUM, ACUM NU POT cere indurare lui Dumnezeu pentru tot ce traim.
Am o gandire simpla. Nu sunt parinte. Nu am nascut. Dar am invatat de la Viata, si am invatat pe altii, ca un parinte te ghideaza. Te invata. Iti explica. Iti arata. Te sustine. Te iarta.
Revine si te indruma de zeci de ori. Are rabdare. Foloseste orice mijloc pentru ate face sa intelegi. Vorba buna, tonul ridicat, o constrangere de la ceva ce -ti place.
Si TU, nu intelegi. NU vrei sa intelegi. Chiar daca vezi ca suferi facand invers de cum te invata parintele tau.
Urmarea? Parintele abandoneaza 'lupta". Iti spune: "Gata. Eu renunt. Am facut tot ce mi-a stat in putinta pentru ate face sa intelegi. Dra nu vrei. Poate ca trebuie sa inveti pe propria-ti piele. Sa suferi ca sa accepti. Fa ce vrei."
Si suntem pe cont propriu.
EU NU POT sa cer lui Dumnezeu indurare sa opreasca procesul acesta - indiferent ca este creat ori indus de cineva dar are loc cu accept Divin - pana nu simt ca IN INTERIORUL MEU am facut ORDINE. CURATENIE. Pana nu simt ca am realizat TRANSFORMAREA interioara.
Altfel, moartea celor de pana acum, dar MAI ALES Frica dezvoltata si TRIMISA in lume, s-ar dovedi inutile.
As vedea ca solutie:
1. SINCERITATE deplina fata de mine. DEPLIN. Ca cea mai puternica si profunda spovedanie.
Si FARA frica realizata. Frica ma paralizeaza. Corpul devine inert la a reactiona. Nu doar virusul poate intra. Orice bacterie, ciuperca.
2. HRANIREA sufletului cu tot ce poate fi frumos. Inclusiv amintiri. Dar nu dureroase.
3. SUSTINEREA corpului la o frecventa ridicata.
NP. Aici voi aduce niste inregistrari pentru a exemplifica.
DUPA toate astea si poate altele, voi putea spune:
" Doamne, tu ai vazut straduinta mea, ai vazut si durerea mea. Ca om, am facut tot ce am stiut. Am inteles CAT DE MULT am gresit fata de mine. Fata de cei de langa mine. Fata de Natura Creatia Ta.
Sunt pregatit (a) sa o iau de la capat dupa alte criterii. Ghideaza-ma. Te rog! Iti multumesc."
Ca exemplificare, redau un videoclip care transmite ceea ce eu simt, exprim, traiesc: Forta de a renaste.
Revin cu o subliniere necesară. Exercițiul dat in posatrea anterioara- Tema nr.1- permite ACCEPTAREA SUFERINȚEI pe care o simțiți când vă gândiți la o persoană și nu acceptarea persoanei. Acceptând SUFERINȚA ce vă aparține de drept, DISPARE orice nemulțumire față de acea persoană și implicit, NU MAI ESTE NIMIC DE IERTAT.
Când ne straduim să iertam, iertam PERSOANA și de aceea ego-ul, mintea, greu o fac . Pentru că ne amintim de om. Noi vrem să ne INTREGIM PE NOI. Să aducem la noi in interior toată energia care ne aparține. Inclusiv suferința. Felicitări! Celor care ați trăit beneficitatea exercițiului.
Elibererea de credințe - 2 Credințe legate de bani
" Sunt oameni care au bani și oameni care sunt bogați" - Gabrielle Coco Chanel
Subiectul bani este un subiect EXTREM de la modă, la fel de discutat ca cel despre sex, politică ori religie. Că suntem de acord cu o idee sau alta, este important pentru noi. Că ACȚIONĂM in acord cu o credință legată de bani, atunci, subiectul devine ESENȚIAL pentru noi. Pentru că ne face să luam decizii in acord cu această idee. Care ne aparține-foarte rar- sau pe care am....împrumutat-o ori ne-a fost indusă.
Temă: Scrieți in ordine aleatorie, 9 credințe ale voastre legate de bani. Apoi, priviți aceste credințe, idei pe care le împărtășiti, și spuneți cu voce tare: "Iubesc banii!"
Estefoarte posibil sa intampinati rezistenta mintii, sa nu puteti exprima, sa va sufocati, ori chiar sa radeti, spunand:" Da, bai, eu chiar iubesc banii !"Si sa va amuzati.
Nici una dintre reactii nu va ajuta.Nici respingerea, nici tratarea lor cu amuzament.
Altii va vor spune sa iubiti energia lor. Bun. complet este saasimilati energia lor ca fiind a voastra.
Puneti pe o masa in fata voastra cateva bancnote de valoare diferita.
Priviti-le 30 sec-1 min. Inspirati, admirand culorile diferite ale lor. Fiti constienti de culoarea lor.
Ganditi-va ca va plac culorile. La modul general.
Afirmati cu voce tare:" Iubesc culoarea in viata mea. Iubesc culorile.
Deschideti ochii si afirmati:" Iubesc CULOAREA banilor!".Repetati afirmatia pana simtiti ca respirati usor, degajat.
Reveniti la cele 9 credinte pe care le-ati scris si vedeti ce efect au acum asupra voastra.
TOTI iubim culoareaa. TOTI suntem culoarea.
Fiind energie, suntem din Lumina ; ea este formata din cele 7 culori-ROGVAIV- nativ si natural, iubim culoarea.
Banii sunt o energie si deci au culoare.. Negandu-le puterea sau incercand sa ii tinem...legati de noi- Hagi Tudose?!?_- ii respingem.
Concluzia: ACCEPTAND banii in viata noastra DAR recunoscandu-le LOCUL- de mai mici decat noi- (noi ii materializam pe ei si nu ei pe noi0, includem inca un aspect al vietii noastre in noi insine.
Noi castigam. In noi si bani pentru noi.
Va doresc sa se materializeze acest aspect al vietii voastre.